Building Self-Esteem: Your Path to Confidence

Updated on September 4, 2024

Benefits of Boosting Self-Esteem

Improving self-esteem is an important goal that can have a huge positive impact on your life. With a healthy level of self-esteem, you can boost your emotional well-being, build resilience, improve relationships, and increase mental and physical health. You’ll also become better at making decisions and speaking up for yourself.

If this sounds like a lot, don’t worry! Below, I outline some simple steps to help increase your self-esteem.

Practice Self-Compassion

First and foremost, be kind to yourself—just as you would be to a close friend. Treat yourself with understanding and forgiveness. If you make a mistake, remind yourself that everyone makes mistakes and that flaws are okay.

Avoid self-criticism and negative self-talk. If you catch yourself saying things like “I’m not good enough,” try to reframe them as positive, like “I’m learning and growing, and that’s enough.”

Celebrate Strengths & Accomplishments

One of the best ways to build self-esteem is to recognize your strengths and celebrate your successes—no matter how small. Take a moment to acknowledge something you’re proud of, like completing a task or progressing toward a goal.

It can help to list your skills, qualities, and past accomplishments. This can serve as a reminder when you’re feeling down. Focus on what makes you unique. Your uniqueness is your strength!

Set Realistic Goals

When was the last time you set a goal for yourself? Setting goals helps build confidence. Start by setting realistic goals and breaking larger ones into smaller, achievable steps. Reaching those smaller goals will boost your self-esteem and help you build toward bigger dreams.

Remember to celebrate each milestone, no matter how small. And if you’re struggling with setting or achieving goals, our therapists are here to help guide you.

Surround Yourself with Supportive People

Who you spend time with matters. The people around you have a significant influence on your self-esteem. Surround yourself with supportive people who value you and encourage you. Their positive energy can lift you up and make you feel appreciated.

Choose relationships that offer constructive feedback and make you feel a sense of belonging. This can have a big impact on how you see yourself.

Avoid Comparisons

Comparing yourself to others is one of the quickest ways to drain your self-esteem. Everyone has their unique journey, and comparing your progress to someone else’s can be damaging.

When you catch yourself comparing, refocus on your progress. Remind yourself, “I’m on my own path and making progress at my own pace.” Celebrate your growth without looking at others.

Learn & Try New Things

What’s something you’ve always wanted to learn? Expanding your knowledge or picking up a new hobby can increase your self-esteem. When we try new things, we challenge ourselves, which boosts confidence and keeps our minds active.

Step out of your comfort zone and give yourself the chance to grow. You’ll be surprised at how much stronger you’ll feel emotionally and mentally by exploring new interests.

Contact Our Therapists for More Help

Don’t hesitate to seek support if low self-esteem affects your daily life or causes emotional distress. Our therapists can provide the guidance, tools, and techniques to help you build your self-esteem and regain confidence. We’re here to help you on your journey toward feeling more confident and empowered.


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